Completed or Finished
I rang Susil Wanigaratne who was
hospitalized in Colombo about a week ago. Susil was admitted to hospital
because he was feeling weak and was running a temperature. I heard about it yesterday and I rang him immediately from
Sydney. Susil said he was feeling lifeless and complained that the temperature
was not going down. I chatted to him for a while and advised him a little.
Susil is a Sinhala Nationalist because that is the only pathway known to him.
But Susil is very accepting of Sri Lankans of Tamil origin and more importantly
Tamil Nationalists. He is in fact part of the community in Wellawatte – a
predominantly Tamil area in Colombo. I rang again today to check on his
progress and was delighted to hear that he has been discharged and was ready to
go home! Susil said that after he spoke
to me he regained his confidence – and now even the temperature was gone! That
made me happy. I thanked the Lord again for answering my prayers. The best
thing I could do for Susil was to pray as if he were a part of me - the same way I was praying for the Bali 9
leaders. Each time something positive
happens – without any direct intervention on my part – I know clearly
that the progress was due to that Higher Power which blesses One mindedness.
Susil is our auto-rickshaw man in Colombo.
To be able to receive the Lord’s blessings through our prayers – Susil also had
to be open minded – and his mind needed to be clear of any bias. There are
Tamil minds that are less open than Susil’s to becoming one-minded with me.
Likewise, in terms of Myuran Sukumaran’s
family – they are not my relatives but their family is more or less the only
family we had as new migrants in Australia. Hence the natural mind connection
during time of deep need. In both instances – our strength of mind works them
to help themselves. That has a chain effect. Even if Myuran’s body is no longer
with us – his mind will be.
The mind of Sukumaran 10 years ago was
without the depth of belonging to a common society. Hence it did not think
twice about damaging another society either.
But we have come a long way since then. Sukumaran’s mind is now worth
preserving and inheriting. His body will be gone but he will continue to live
with us. That is the way with heritage. One who fails to give recognition to
this – be it an individual or a legal system – is driven by the physical.
I am referring not only to Indonesians here.
I am referring to Sri Lankans also. The mind of Sri Lankans on both sides of the
Ethnic bridge needs to become stronger through the Truth discovered about each
other. If we keep referring to what happened in the past all the time – then it
means we are operating at the emotional level. The mind of the Governments on
both sides is not the same as it was 30 years ago or even in 2009 when innocent
civilians suffered. We need to render such suffering dignity – by valuing why those
deaths happened. When we so value –
those who died live with us forever. This is the reason why we have memorials
in many cultures. If the mind is also lost when the body dies - we would not rise above funerals. These
thoughts have been strongly influenced by the poor conduct of some family
members from Vaddukoddai who are using the name of Thesawalamai to ‘get’ ‘money
only’ from a relative who died. There is no demonstration of respect for the
mind that gave us Thesawalamai. Their ‘attitudes’ sadly have been upheld by the
Mallakam District Court which delayed judgment by more than a year. I had to
wrote to the Judicial Services Commission and out came to verdict – so we can
raise the matter to the Court of Appeal.
Unlike some who are critical of
Thesawalamai which includes the principles on which the dowry system works I am
in awe of the minds of my Tamil elders who gave me Thesawalamai Law so I would
uphold the dignity of my marriage and as well as my commitment to my husband’s
side of the family more than to mine. I was practicing the fundamentals of this
law even though it was not recognized and rewarded by my husband’s family. My
experience as a migrant, with the Australian system has strengthened my mind. The
parallel of Thesawalamai law is the 1901 law of Trespass here in New South
Wales. I prayed to my Australian elders to guide me – and not only proved in
court that the Australian Police were unlawful in arresting me – but more importantly discarded the
superficial part of my workplace relationships.
I continue to carry the consolidated value of my experiences as my Truth
and the common family as my consolidate family.
The passing away of my brother-in-law who
had saved wealth – brought me the opportunity to study the Thesawalamai mind –
and I am so much in awe of the wisdom of those elders who practiced equality in
marriage and the hierarchical system of management at the workplace. Dowry
system and the caste system are heritage names for Equal Opportunity system and
Industrial Relations system of today’s
world. By experiencing Thesawalamai we
are making in action - universal declarations of Independence. Slogans of Tamil
Eelam are the parallels of the money value in the wealth inherited from our
Brother. One who inherits the mind is the real heir to the independence enjoyed
by our Brother. One who therefore inherits
the mind of Thewalamai elders is already independent. The rest will die with
their body. A relationship becomes
family when completed. This must not be
confused with physical togetherness. Recently a Sri Lankan Diaspora leader
shared the following with me in clarification:
Completed or Finished .
No
dictionary has ever been able to satisfactorily define the difference between
"complete" and "finished." During a recent linguistic
conference, held in London, England, and attended by some of the best linguists
in the world Samsundar Balgobin, a Guyanese linguist, was the presenter when he
was asked to make that very distinction. The question put to him by a colleague
in the erudite audience was this:
Some
say there is no difference between complete and finished . Please
explain the difference in a way that is easy to understand.
Mr. Balgobin’s response: When you marry the right woman, you are complete . If you marry the wrong woman, you are finished . And, if the right one catches you with the wrong one, you are completely finished .
Mr. Balgobin’s response: When you marry the right woman, you are complete . If you marry the wrong woman, you are finished . And, if the right one catches you with the wrong one, you are completely finished .
This applies to all relationships. That
brings us to statements by the Chief Minister of Northern Province of Sri Lanka
- the Hon C.V. Wigneswaran – who also is considered to be an investor in
Thesawamai:
Ceylontoday: Exposing the truth cannot be racism,
reconciliation maybe achieved only through finding the truth, pointed out
Northern Chief Minister C.V. Wigneswaran, responding to Prime Minister Ranil
Wickremasinghe's comment over the passing of the genocide resolution at the
Northern Provincial Council (NPC) last week."Releasing the truth to the people cannot be identified as racism, and Prime Minister's comment on our move has saddened the council. Our resolution has just pointed out the truth," he said. Only when the truth is exposed can reconciliation be reached, the 'Truth and Reconciliation Commission' in South Africa found the truth in order to find ways for reconciliation, he stated……. "We brought in the resolution to express our thoughts on the postponement of the UN report. We feel the Prime Minister had given a reply to our claim for a change in the political culture. Prime Minister's stand is making us feel that our people from the North cannot expect reconciliation with those in the South. But I feel that the Sinhala people are righteous, but their politicians have misguided them," he added.
The mind that committed alleged Genocide needs
to be true as of now for this generation to make such a claim. If this is then the Sinhala people who elect government
cannot be righteous people. In my article Emperor Bali & the Tamil Mind ( http://austms.blogspot.com.au/) I have tried to bring across that Common Value. Winning the land was personal victory for
Emperor Bali. Until it is merged with
the Lord’s system of Truth – the success is not Completed. It may very well be ‘finished’. In Mr. Wigneswaran’s case – the right partner
in governance is Thesawalamai mind. If Thesawalamai in Mr. Wigneswaran catches
him with the Separatists the Chief Minister will be completely finished!